A workbook for teens 16+ and adults on knowing what you need, saying it out loud, and staying yourself in relationships. Covers non-negotiables, people-pleasing, boundaries, resentment, shrinking, assertion scripts, relationship check-ins, and reading how others respond.
Non-Negotiables is a short workbook for anyone who has been taught to be flexible, easygoing, or low-maintenance at the cost of themselves. It helps readers notice where relationships leave them tired, resentful, small, or off-center, then translate vague needs into concrete behaviors they can recognize, name, and protect.
Want deeper relationship support? Pair this with Relationships, Reconsidered: Adult Edition for a fuller guide to boundaries, repair, discernment, endings, friendship, dating, and workplace dynamics.
RELATIONSHIPS + BOUNDARIES WORKBOOK · AGES 16+
This workbook helps older teens and adults identify the qualities and behaviors they genuinely need in close relationships, then practice naming them without apology.
You are allowed to have a floor
Knowing Your Non-Negotiables
Helps readers identify what they genuinely need from the people closest to them, separate preferences from “the floor,” and trace patterns of resentment or shrinking.
The Friction Trace
A reflection skill for noticing moments that leave you tired, irritated, or off-center and asking what you would have needed for it to feel okay.
Asserting Them Out Loud
Reframes naming needs as information-sharing, not confrontation, and gives language for saying what matters without asking permission.
Translate Before You Assert
Helps readers turn vague values like “kindness” or “honesty” into observable behaviors they can actually assess.
Relationship Check-In
A set of questions for reading any connection honestly — romantic, platonic, family, or work-adjacent.
Your Turn Reflection Pages
Guided prompts for naming needs, practicing language, noticing fears, and deciding what to do with what you are seeing.
This workbook is a psychoeducational relationship support resource and is not a substitute for therapy, crisis care, domestic violence support, safety planning, legal advice, or individualized clinical guidance. If a relationship feels unsafe, coercive, threatening, or harmful, seek support from a licensed professional, trusted advocate, or crisis resource.